The Cardinal was so right. The healthier the marriages, the healthier the homes, the children and the stronger the country. The world becomes a better place.
For this reason McMurtry Creative Media shares ideas for building family through interaction, traditions and love.
I love my husband, kids and grandkids, family and also my friends, neighbors and ancestors. Aaaand let’s talk for a second about the varieties of love besides the essential romantic type. Oh Valetine’s, Galentine’s, Palentinte’s…it’s all about love.
“What the world needs now is love, sweet love…” (Hal David and Burt Bacharach. )
Here are some of our favorite ideas for sharing love this Valentine’s Day and all through the year.
Share the Love: Giving the Right Kind of Gift
When You Give a Gift, Do You Speak the Love Language of Your Sweetheart (and loved ones)? Here Are Some Ideas to Share Your Love in Ways He or She or they Will Love.
By Pamela Layton McMurtry
I love the love. I revel in the red hearts and luscious flowers; the beauty of sweeping romantic gestures that define Valentine’s Day. Before you rush out to buy those long-stemmed, red roses or sew that monogrammed bathrobe – although I am certainly not discouraging the practice – you might take a moment to assess whether that act of kindness will speak of your love to your love.
In his book, The Five Love Languages, author Gary Chapman, PhD. describes languages that speak to the heart. He says that many genuine acts of love and kindness go unappreciated, because the message didn’t translate to fill the needs of the recipient. The five primary love languages, according to Dr. Chapman, are:
- Acts of service
- Physical touch
- Words of affirmation
- Quality time
- Receiving gifts
All are valuable and helpful, but have you heard of the Platinum Rule? It states, “Do unto others as they would like to have done unto them.” In other words, give them what they want. It seems most people have two primary love languages. Many women have appreciated being taken to a nice dinner, but what they were hungry for was quality time with their loved one, or kind words without biting sarcasm, dismissive comments or unnecessary judgments.
And a husband might appreciate an elaborately prepared handmade gift, but what really says love might be a massage or positive feedback on a project. See if you can identify the love languages of your spouse, partner, friends and children. Ask them what makes them feel loved.
Here are a few ideas for Valentine gifts that can show your love.
Acts of service
- Paint that bathroom that’s been waiting too long.
- Give him or her a night off to do something with friends or just some “me time.”
- Share a good meal.
- Take over one of his or her chores.
- Get a massage book and give a good massage to help your loved one de-stress.
- Hold hands as you walk together.
- A hand on the shoulder, a pat on the back, a long hug (my teen says wrestling).
- Wash their hair. Many women feel calm when their heads are touched.
Words of affirmation
“Seek in every way to be infused with light…
Words matter because words lodge in our cells and in our souls and even in the walls of our homes.” Wendy Watson Nelson
- Kind words or a sincere compliment lift the spirit.
- Withhold criticism.
- Words of encouragement give strength and courage.
- Read poetry, the art of poetry carries the words to the soul.
- Help with family history or listen to a story from their past that has meaning to them.
- Find something you both enjoy doing for a win-win. A walk through a park, a concert, gazing at the stars – enjoy a hobby together.
- Visit someone who is lonely or ill.
- Visit a temple, church or synagogue together.
- Turn off the phones, get away for a night or a few. Check out for a time – the world will continue to spin, guaranteed.
- A new dress or pair of shoes.
- An original poem or song you wrote.
- Flowers; the color and scent really do uplift the spirit and help promote healing and cheer.
- Cheese. OK, chocolate, but cheese has more mood-elevating properties than chocolate.
- A wonderful book, something to make life easier, more pleasant or a novelty to promote dopamine, the neurotransmitter that gives a feeling of well-being.
It’s apparent that showing love doesn’t have to cost a great deal of money, but an investment of time and thought.
Love heals and cheers and is the answer to the world’s ills. Make sure the love you share is the love they need. Share the love this season and make your world a bit of heaven on earth.
Abraham, the father of many nations, set an example of loving when he and his nephew Lot had hired shepherds who were disputing over their grazing lands. Abraham generously suggested they should divide the land and he let Lot choose which area he wanted. Think of the wars that could be averted if we all learned to listen and share and stop coveting what others have.
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